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Coaching Real People Toward Real Solutions

I thought about starting you off with my LinkedIn style introduction. You know, the braggadocious one that tells you about my INCREDIBLE skills and experience... but then I realized that my life coaching profile isn't the Me that you will get to know when you sit across from me with a coffee (whether in person or connected via technology of some sort). You are certainly welcome to see that version but I warned you!

Here’s what I really want you to know about me (and likely what you’re actually looking for on this page anyway).

If I look at my life through my retrospective lens, I see a pattern emerge as a serving soul. I often find myself in positions of supporting others as their lives change and they grow. Don't get me wrong. Mother Theresa or Jesus I'm not, but as I become more conscious of my call to serve others, I also become more aware of how my actions impact others.

Almost inevitably, my college path, as winding as it may have been with several major changes, sent me off with a BS (no jokes about the BS, okay?) in Psychology. Psych majors don't have direct career paths, and as I discovered, I needed to continue my education. Though I didn't realize it at the time, I have come to understand that certain people and circumstances are perhaps fated. The world of education and counseling that so strongly influences my life at the present came from a certain confluence of meeting an incredibly gifted teacher (who would become my wife), a job offer to support students with special needs, and through that job, working with a paradigm shifting school psychologist who turned me on to understanding and helping kids thrive with authentic, real world assessments.

My path during that timeframe had become clear. The School Psychology program in Counselor Education guided me to the formal steps of professional "helping".  Hitting the "real world" of school psychology certainly put me into a circumstance as an agent of change. I'm not throwing words around here. I entered the profession at a time when best practices for truly supporting students looked nothing like the common and well accepted conventions that I was witnessing. I am proud to say that with my colleagues, we shifted the tide in our service area to practices that better engage and empower all learners. And I see these practices flourishing still today in my kid’s, niece’s and nephew’s respective schools.

With the benefit of hindsight, I can now see that the roles I took on, training I received and challenges I faced in my 10 years as a school psychologist were for my benefit as my path took another direction. And again, out of the phoenix of another confluence of people and circumstances grew a vision of supporting people through their growth...from my growth. As I helped myself grow, I began to recognize that my education, training, and for that matter, life could be leveraged for the benefit of others....

 

The Genesis of enLīven Wellness Coaching

My direction began to appear to me around the middle of 2014. It started with a layoff. Go figure, right? I wasn’t heartbroken over it, though. In fact, I’d known for a long time that the job was not something I was meant to do long term. Instead it was a stepping stone; a training ground, a place of experience to gain skills, knowledge and courage to run a business of my own. (There’s that hindsight again!)
After the layoff, I set intentions to grow in my physical fitness and spirituality, another decision that drew people and situations to me that ultimately would solidify my path as a life coach.
I am incredibly grateful for everyone that has touched me on this journey.
I launched enLiven Wellness Coaching, LLC in November 2015, scared to death that nobody would knock on my door. Well, I quickly learned that living in that fear would most certainly make it reality. But given that, I also learned that I could change those circumstances with action. Each incremental step, no matter how small revealed another stone on which to step.

As I mentioned in my personal story, I have so often found myself in the midst of transition and more importantly, as an agent of change. I’ve come to no longer fear change, understanding that change is the only constant. Instead, I have learned to shape that change for the better.
There is a reason I mention this. There is incredible value in having the support of a personal advocate that can help you navigate the opportunities for growth that occur when you decide to push through the status quo. In a nutshell, that is what enLīven Wellness Coaching is about.

I support clients in bringing the best of themselves every day so they can serve family, community, and world from a balanced, grounded, and fulfilled state of being.

I have discovered that everyone has an amazing story. Yes, even you! There is nothing mundane about it. So what is your story?
I have also noticed that when we tell the story of our life, it is told in past tense as if the story has happened; as if it’s over. Sure, parts of the story are in place. But my question to clients is whether they cling to that story as a determinant factor in their future.
Do the scripts of the past create a future state of the same struggles or are we the authors of our todays and tomorrows? What story line will you follow?

I help clients to recognize the fruits of their inner work by asking questions and making observations without judgement. In my study of human behavior, I have come to know "us" as infinitely creative and knowledgeable beings that sometimes need help getting out of our own way. I have been blessed with incredible coaches, mentors, and friends that support me in this way, and I offer that to you.
There is no weakness in asking for a coach's insight and support. In fact, it’s smart; it means you’re already poised to allow the next part of your story to unfold. It means you are aware of those hindsight lessons and know that each experience gives you strength and insight for the next one.
The highest performing athletes thrive because of their coach's support and, in turn, their own hard work, right? So why shouldn’t you benefit from your own personal coach? It works the same way!

I am always open to a conversation. When you are ready to explore authoring your future with exceedingly ambitious outcomes, get in touch and we will investigate the possibilities.

Always remember...

enVision.engage.enLīven.

Frequently Asked Coaching Questions

ICF defines coaching as partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential, which is particularly important in today’s uncertain and complex environment. Coaches honor the client as the expert in his or her life and work and believe every client is creative, resourceful and whole. Standing on this foundation, the coach's responsibility is to:

  • Discover, clarify, and align with what the client wants to achieve
  • Encourage client self-discovery
  • Elicit client-generated solutions and strategies
  • Hold the client responsible and accountable

This process helps clients dramatically improve their outlook on work and life, while improving their leadership skills and unlocking their potential.

To determine whether you or your company could benefit from coaching, start by summarizing what you would expect to accomplish in coaching. When an individual or business has a fairly clear idea of the desired outcome, a coaching partnership can be a useful tool for developing a strategy for how to achieve that outcome with greater ease.

Since coaching is a partnership, ask yourself whether collaboration, other viewpoints, and new perspectives are valued. Also, ask yourself whether you or your business is ready to devote the time and the energy to making real changes. If the answer is yes, then coaching may be a beneficial way to grow and develop.

Professional coaching focuses on setting goals, creating outcomes and managing personal change. Sometimes it’s helpful to understand coaching by distinguishing it from other personal or organizational support professions.

  • Therapy: Therapy deals with healing pain, dysfunction and conflict within an individual or in relationships. The focus is often on resolving difficulties arising from the past that hamper an individual's emotional functioning in the present, improving overall psychological functioning, and dealing with the present in more emotionally healthy ways. Coaching, on the other hand, supports personal and professional growth based on self-initiated change in pursuit of specific actionable outcomes. These outcomes are linked to personal or professional success. Coaching is future focused. While positive feelings/emotions may be a natural outcome of coaching, the primary focus is on creating actionable strategies for achieving specific goals in one's work or personal life. The emphases in a coaching relationship are on action, accountability, and follow through.
  • Consulting: Individuals or organizations retain consultants for their expertise. While consulting approaches vary widely, the assumption is the consultant will diagnose problems and prescribe and, sometimes, implement solutions. With coaching, the assumption is that individuals or teams are capable of generating their own solutions, with the coach supplying supportive, discovery-based approaches and frameworks.
  • Mentoring: A mentor is an expert who provides wisdom and guidance based on his or her own experience. Mentoring may include advising, counseling and coaching. The coaching process does not include advising or counseling, and focuses instead on individuals or groups setting and reaching their own objectives. 
  • Training: Training programs are based on objectives set out by the trainer or instructor. Though objectives are clarified in the coaching process, they are set by the individual or team being coached, with guidance provided by the coach. Training also assumes a linear learning path that coincides with an established curriculum. Coaching is less linear without a set curriculum.
  • Athletic Development: Though sports metaphors are often used, professional coaching is different from sports coaching. The athletic coach is often seen as an expert who guides and directs the behavior of individuals or teams based on his or her greater experience and knowledge. Professional coaches possess these qualities, but their experience and knowledge of the individual or team determines the direction. Additionally, professional coaching, unlike athletic development, does not focus on behaviors that are being executed poorly or incorrectly. Instead, the focus is on identifying opportunity for development based on individual strengths and capabilities.

An individual or team might choose to work with a coach for many reasons, including but not limited to the following:

  • Something urgent, compelling or exciting is at stake (a challenge, stretch goal or opportunity) 
  • A gap exists in knowledge, skills, confidence or resources
  • A desire to accelerate results
  • A lack of clarity with choices to be made
  • Success has started to become problematic
  • Work and life are out of balance, creating unwanted consequences
  • Core strengths need to be identified, along with how best to leverage them

Coaching typically begins with a personal interview (either face-to-face or by teleconference call) to assess the individual's or business’ current opportunities and challenges, define the scope of the relationship, identify priorities for action and establish specific desired outcomes. Subsequent coaching sessions may be conducted in person or over the telephone, with each session lasting a previously established length of time. Between scheduled coaching sessions, the individual may be asked to complete specific actions that support the achievement of one's personally prioritized goals. The coach may provide additional resources in the form of relevant articles, checklists, assessments or models to support the individual's or business’ thinking and actions. The duration of the coaching relationship varies depending on needs and preferences.

  • Assessments: A variety of assessments are available to support the coaching process, depending upon the needs and circumstances of the individual or business. Assessments provide objective information that can enhance self-awareness, as well as awareness of others and their circumstances; provide a benchmark for creating coaching goals and actionable strategies; and offer a method for evaluating progress.
  • Concepts, models and principles: A variety of concepts, models and principles drawn from the behavioral sciences, management literature, spiritual traditions and/or the arts and humanities may be incorporated into the coaching conversation to increase self-awareness and awareness of others, foster shifts in perspective, promote fresh insights, provide new frameworks for looking at opportunities and challenges, and energize and inspire forward actions.
  • Appreciative approach: Coaching incorporates an appreciative approach, grounded in what's right, what's working, what's wanted and what's needed to get there. Using an appreciative approach, the coach models constructive communication skills and methods to enhance personal communication effectiveness. He or she incorporates discovery-based inquiry, proactive (as opposed to reactive) ways of managing personal opportunities and challenges, constructive framing of observations and feedback to elicit the most positive responses from others, and visions of success as contrasted with focusing on problems. The appreciative approach is simple to understand and employ, and its reach can be profound, opening up new possibilities and spurring action.

The length of a coaching partnership varies depending on the individual's or team's needs and preferences. For certain types of focused coaching, three to six months of working may work. For other types of coaching, people may find it beneficial to work with a coach for a longer period. Factors that may impact the length of time include: the types of goals, the ways individuals or teams prefer to work, the frequency of coaching meetings and financial resources available to support coaching.

Overall, be prepared to design the coaching partnership with the coach. For example, think of a strong partnership that you currently have in your work or life. Look at how you built that relationship and what is important to you about partnership. You will want to build those same things into a coaching relationship. Here are a few other tips:

  • Look for stylistic similarities and differences between the coach and you and how these might support your growth as an individual or the growth of your team.
  • Discuss your goals for coaching within the context of the coach's specialty or the coach's preferred way of working with an individual or team.
  • Talk with the coach about what to do if you ever feel things are not going well; make some agreements up front on how to handle questions or problems.
  • Remember that coaching is a partnership, so be assertive about talking with the coach about any concerns.

The coach:

  • Provides objective assessment and observations that foster the individual's or team’s self-awareness and awareness of others
  • Listens closely to fully understand the individual's or team's circumstances 
  • Acts as a sounding board in exploring possibilities and implementing thoughtful planning and decision making
  • Champions opportunities and potential, encouraging stretch and challenge commensurate with personal strengths and aspirations
  • Fosters shifts in thinking that reveal fresh perspectives 
  • Challenges blind spots to illuminate new possibilities and support the creation of alternative scenarios
  • Maintains professional boundaries in the coaching relationship, including confidentiality, and adheres to the coaching profession's code of ethics

The individual:

  • Creates the coaching agenda based on personally meaningful coaching goals 
  • Uses assessment and observations to enhance self-awareness and awareness of others
  • Envisions personal and/or organizational success 
  • Assumes full responsibility for personal decisions and actions 
  • Utilizes the coaching process to promote possibility thinking and fresh perspectives 
  • Takes courageous action in alignment with personal goals and aspirations 
  • Engages big-picture thinking and problem-solving skills 
  • Takes the tools, concepts, models and principles provided by the coach and engages in effective forward actions

To be successful, coaching asks certain things, all of which begin with intention. Additionally, clients should:

  • Focus on one's self, the tough questions, the hard truths and one's success.
  • Observe the behaviors and communications of others.
  • Listen to one's intuition, assumptions, judgments, and to the way one sounds when one speaks.
  • Challenge existing attitudes, beliefs and behaviors and develop new ones that serve one's goals in a superior way.
  • Leverage personal strengths and overcome limitations to develop a winning style.
  • Take decisive actions, however uncomfortable and in spite of personal insecurities, to reach for the extraordinary.
  • Show compassion for one's self while learning new behaviors and experiencing setbacks, and to show that compassion for others as they do the same.
  • Commit to not take one's self so seriously, using humor to lighten and brighten any situation.
  • Maintain composure in the face of disappointment and unmet expectations, avoiding emotional reactivity.
  • Have the courage to reach for more than before while engaging in continual self examination without fear.

Measurement may be thought of in two distinct ways: external indicators of performance and internal indicators of success. Ideally, both are incorporated.

Examples of external measures include achievement of coaching goals established at the outset of the coaching relationship, increased income/revenue, obtaining a promotion, performance feedback that is obtained from a sample of the individual's constituents (e.g., direct reports, colleagues, customers, boss, the manager him/herself), personal and/or business performance data (e.g., productivity, efficiency measures). The external measures selected should be things the individual is already measuring and has some ability to directly influence.

Examples of internal measures include self-scoring/self-validating assessments that can be administered initially and at regular intervals in the coaching process, changes in the individual's self-awareness and awareness of others, shifts in thinking that create more effective actions, and shifts in one's emotional state that inspire confidence.

Measurement may be thought of in two distinct ways: external indicators of performance and internal indicators of success. Ideally, both are incorporated.

Examples of external measures include achievement of coaching goals established at the outset of the coaching relationship, increased income/revenue, obtaining a promotion, performance feedback that is obtained from a sample of the individual's constituents (e.g., direct reports, colleagues, customers, boss, the manager him/herself), personal and/or business performance data (e.g., productivity, efficiency measures). The external measures selected should be things the individual is already measuring and has some ability to directly influence.

Examples of internal measures include self-scoring/self-validating assessments that can be administered initially and at regular intervals in the coaching process, changes in the individual's self-awareness and awareness of others, shifts in thinking that create more effective actions, and shifts in one's emotional state that inspire confidence.

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